Comments on: it’s not personal, it’s grief

By: Heather

Heather — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 14:10:48 +0000

It really is hard to try to celebrate Christmas when every single festivity, every family event, seems to scream “my baby is gone, my baby should be here, my baby is gone, my baby should be here…”. It’s like a constant beat, drumming in my head, every single time. It’s not just the Christmas events that trigger it, but for some reason Christmas can make it feel so much more real.

I wish you weren’t here, in this miserable place. I’m just so, so sorry. But I am glad that blogging helps you.

By: YaYa

YaYa — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 16:21:50 +0000

No personal pressure or guilt! Do what you need to do. We love you all so very much. Missing Felix and Gabe ourselves during the Christmas season. Especially when so much of the season centers around the joy of the birth of a very special baby. I’m glad that THAT Baby is telling the story of His birth to Felix and Gabriel. Maybe Gabe’s namesake is even telling of the part he played in announcing the wonderful birth. I can see them in my mind jumping and dancing with glee as they celebrate with Jesus and anticipate our joining them in time. That will be a joyous time indeed. Until then, do what you need to do, and don’t listen to the voice that says anything to make you feel guilty. He’s the liar. Love you so very much.

Momma

By: Kelly

Kelly — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 07:55:52 +0000

I agree with Riss. It’s easier said than done, but don’t worry about what other people think (or don’t think) of you if you decide to sit an event out. I think it’s certainly “allowed” for you guys to decide that this year is the year to sit out. And if it’s only you and Brian sitting it out and the kids going with either of your parents, that’s fine too. Your friends and family will understand and support your decisions. Love you guys!

By: Riss

Riss — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 05:18:27 +0000

You shouldn’t have to worry about what other people are going to think if you take a break from something. And it would be an awful thing for them to try and make you feel guilty. While I love our family Christmas party, I wouldn’t be upset with you for missing it. You guys do what you need, and we as your family will do our job to support you!!!

By: Mrs. Spit

Mrs. Spit — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 00:02:27 +0000

If I had anything to do over about those early days, it would be refusing to do more things, instead of doing them because I thought I had to.

I’m sorry.

By: Michele

Michele — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 23:24:31 +0000

Oh hon, it is so hard to get into the spirit when your heart is broken. I am so sorry.

By: Seraphim

Seraphim — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 22:29:20 +0000

It has been an incredibly rough couple of years and no wonder you don’t feel up to it. But you will get through it and I hope, maybe even enjoy some of it. Hugs to you, I can only imagine your feelings xxxxx